Dr. Stein's Psychology Blog
My thoughts on mental health counseling, therapy, neuropsychology, collaborative divorce and more.
When most people hear that word they think of heartbreak, tears, arguing, and a big hit to their pocketbook. Divorce, indeed, is an emotionally-charged process that’s full of intense and unpredictable feelings. In fact, divorce is one of the most stressful life changes that a person can undergo. Because of that, it is in your best interest to get a trained mental health professional/divorce coach on your team.
Collaborative divorce is a process in which a married couple, at odds with each other, seek to amicably end their marriage. This process leads to smoother transition to post-divorce life and has a positive impact on the whole family, most notably the children. As with any worthwhile endeavor, splitting up is typically not easy for the husband and wife, even if it’s what they ultimately want. Specially trained and experienced mental health professionals play a key role in assisting the divorcing parties as well as the entire collaborative team to stay focused, work on the problems at hand and deal with the emotional challenges that invariably come up in the course of a successful collaborative divorce.
You might think to yourself, “But, I don’t need a mental health therapist, there’s nothing wrong with my brain,” but divorce coaching and psychotherapy are two different experiences. Collaborative Divorce coaching focuses on the on the immediate challenges and obstacles related to the break-up – parenting, conflict resolution, and working through squabbles about the minutia. As a member of the collaborative divorce team, the divorce coach does not take sides, will not think you are “crazy” and helps prepare the family adjust to the challenges of rebooting a family.
As complex and trying as divorce is, one of the major advances and advantages of collaborative divorce is the inclusion of mental health wellness coaches on the team. The recognition that a healthy divorce goes beyond legal matters represents how collaborative divorce is truly a value-added process that pays attention to the whole person and the whole family. Best of luck to you in the next chapter of your life. Check out this link: Jersey Shore Collaborative Law Group for more information about the work I do with a team of legal and financial specialists.
I'm a clinical psychologist and neuropsychologist with a private practice in Red Bank, NJ.